The Top Four Challenges Of Motherhood

Welcome to motherhood! It’s a tiring, learn as you go, unsure journey that is filled with love and worth every moment and minute. There are no set rules on how to become a mother or what’s the best thing to do in each situation. This is a learning process that will be different for every mom. But one thing that will be the same is that there will be challenges along the way. In this post, we will discuss the challenges of Motherhood and how you can overcome them. Just know you are not alone. We all struggle, so keep reading because I know you can relate.

Challenges of Motherhood

As, we all know motherhood is beautiful. We carry these little miracles in our belly for 9 months and develop a strong unbreakable bond. But even before the baby enters the world, we are experiencing being tired. I slept through my 1st and 3rd trimester with each of my kids. I just could not keep my eyes open. A word of advice is get as much sleep as you can, when you can because every mother deals with the challenges of

Lack of Sleep

You were able to sleep while the baby was in your belly, but now that they are out, the lack of sleep is super common. This stage is really demanding because the baby only sleeps for a little bit at a time and the most common time for the baby to be up is the wee hours of the night. They need to be fed every few hours and although they are super cute, the demand that they have is not always pretty.

My advice for this is to sleep when the baby sleeps. A lot of times we feel like we can get this done or get that done because the baby is now sleeping, but if you don’t have enough sleep, you won’t have the energy to do the things that are needed. That pile of laundry will be there when you and baby wake up. And you will eventually learn how to work with the baby awake because the lack of sleep will continue as the baby gets older. It’s just part of motherhood.

Lack Of Privacy

Did you enjoy going to the bathroom by yourself? I hope so, because now that you are a mother, that is over!!! Lol. I’m laughing but it’s really true. The privacy you once knew is no longer. Bathroom trips become a group event. Your personal space now includes the baby and what was yours is no longer just yours. It sucks, but it comes with the territory.

The advice for this is going to be to embrace the process, because honey, the kids aren’t going anywhere. They will always be in your space. But you do want to schedule some alone time so that you can get that little peace of mind and privacy back. It may not be much, but every moment of peace is pleasurable. So enjoy the moment.

Am I Doing This Right?

This is a question most moms have. It may seem like you are not doing things correctly or that you are not a good mom. But I’ve got news for you…if you are doing your best…you are doing things right!!

There is no manual to tell you how to parent and each child is different, meaning each parenting technique will be different. Don’t focus on what other moms are doing and comparing yourself to them, because you are not always there to see what really goes on behind closed doors. Just focus on what is best for you and your child. You will learn the best way to do things as life goes on, but no one mom’s way of parenting is the all around correct way. Continue to do things your way and give it all you’ve got. We see the flaw in you, but our children see us as perfect beings.

Losing Yourself As A Woman

This happens to more moms that you think. I am a walking, talking witness that losing yourself as a woman can quickly sneak up on you if you are not careful. I wrote a post about how I lost myself after motherhood. Click here to read that post and see if you can relate. I was always the one that cared about fashion, hair, makeup and etc. But once I had these kids, I couldn’t keep up with all that was going on, so therefore me as a woman took a backseat to me as a mother. It is not bad to give your children 1000% of yourself, but at the same time you don’t want to lose the full woman you are either.

If this has happened to you and you notice that you no longer do things that you like, because of your dedication to motherhood, understand you can definitely do both. Just because you are a mom does not mean you lose your identity. So go and find what it is that you like to do and treat yourself to a good time.

Those are the challenges of motherhood, but here are the benefits of motherhood.

A beautiful creation.

Yes, you don’t get as much sleep as you would like, but look at what God has created. Your child is beautiful and you were chosen to take care of this amazing little person. That is a blessing in itself.

Life Long Friend

You may not have any privacy anymore, but you have gained a life long friend. Now when it’s time for the group bathroom trip, you know there will be great conversation and engagement with your little friend. Even when we don’t want it. 😂

Unconditional Love

You don’t have to be perfect, just be present. Your child will always feel like you are doing things right as long as they see you present in their lives. We can be very hard on ourselves as parents, but our kids are always there to give us unconditional love.

Finding Yourself Again

Life is a journey, just like motherhood. You learn as you go. You find what works and what doesn’t. But, the ultimate destination is to find joy in yourself. In order to be a great mom, you have to be a great you! So even though you may have lost yourself during motherhood, the fun begins when you begin the journey to find yourself again. Find other moms that you can relate to and link up for support, advice and connection. This interaction really helps.

Although there are challenges of Motherhood, there are also benefits too and the good always out weigh the bad. Motherhood is not easy and sometimes the solution is just being patient until that stage you are in gets better. So stay tough moms, keep pushing and always remember you are not alone!!