Ways Moms Can Find Peace In The Midst of Chaos

As I was trying to get some work done, I could hear the kids down stairs yelling, “I had the remote first, don’t change the TV, I’m telling mom!” Immediately, I hear them racing up stairs to tell their side of the story first. I took a deep breath, because I did not want to hear it, let alone, be a referee to this sibling quarrel. I explained how I’m tired of hearing them always fighting over the smallest things and how it’s getting on my nerves. I told them to figure it out and if they didn’t, the tv was going off. Remind you, there are about six TVs in the house, so why we are fighting again? This is how I will find peace in the midst of chaos in the house this year.

Find peace in the midst of chaos by letting the kids figure things out on their own.

They look to us to help them figure everything out, but someone is going to be unsatisfied with the outcome, so let them do it. Allow them to learn how to compromise and problem solve. I give them a time limit to make a decision and if they can’t agree, everyone loses. This has worked out really well so far.

Establish boundaries.

We always want to be available for our kids, but we need peace too. Create time for yourself where the kids have to give you a break. I will make sure they are fed and don’t need anything from me and then I will go to my room and let them know they are not allowed in unless its an emergency. At times, I’ve even had to lock my door, but it gives me the peace that I need.

Allow the kids to help in order to find peace in the midst of chaos.

After dinner, my kitchen was a mess. I huffed out of frustration and realized, why am I trying to do everything on my own. Turned to the kids and said, “I cooked, so ya’ll clean!” Took my wine glass and went upstairs, peacefully. Don’t feel guilty for delegating and giving yourself a break. Now, we know why our parents did it to us!

Connect with other moms.

Going out for a minute to give yourself a break and connect with other moms can be so beneficial. You have someone that can relate to your chaos and it allows you to get away for a minute. Allow yourself to get a little peace, engage in adult conversations and connect with other women that get you, so you know your house is not the only one going crazy.

Focus on the positive.

In motherhood, a lot will go wrong, and thats’s okay. Focus on the positive. Everything doesn’t have to be perfect and when you give yourself grace, it will help increase peace. Focus on things being good, instead of great. Be proud of what you have achieved in the midst of a crazy day and remember your good, is always good enough.