Why Letting Go Of Your Kids Is Actually Okay.

Letting go of our kids is hard for a parent, because our main goal is to make sure they are okay. We want to make sure they are safe, that they feel supported and know that we are always accessible. Although it’s important for them to feel that way, sometimes letting go is good because it allows kids to learn new lessons.

My daughter had a dance performance that I wasn’t able to make it to. It was her first out of town performance and I didn’t want her to miss the opportunity due to my complicated schedule. After pondering on it for a while, I decided to let her ride with her coach to the performance. When I first explained the plans to her, she was super excited. But after it set in for a few days, she began to get nervous. Her response, “So mom, you’re really not going to be there? Do you think I’ll be okay? What if I need something from you?” These were her questions and because I felt comfortable with her riding with her coach, I realized letting go at this moment, is a good thing. Here are the four reasons why letting go of your kids can be okay.

1. Letting go of your kids can help them be more responsible.

I assured my daughter she would be fine and this was the time for her to show everything she’s been taught. I reminded her that she knows the rules and to just be true to herself. We went to the store and she was allowed to pick out all the snacks that she would need. She was so responsible with her snack selection. I thought she would pick all candy, but she actually selected sandwiches and fruits as well. She said she wanted filling foods to help her get through the day. Definitely more responsible than I was as a kid.

2. Letting go teaches independence.

Giving her a little freedom allowed her to exercise her independence. She was able to make decisions for herself and improve her self-sufficiency. She understood that she was responsible for keeping up with her belongings and staying with the dance group at all times. It also helped her to see that she was capable of being okay without me by her side.

3. Letting go of your kids allows them to grow.

As parents we want to raise healthy, independent children so when we are not around, they are still confident enough to conquer the world. Letting go a little will help them to develop their own personality and interests. Growing allows them a little more freedom to decide what things they truly enjoy, instead of just doing what mom likes.

4. It helps to build the trust bond.

When you show your kids you are giving them a little more freedom, hopefully they will use it to their benefit and not take advantage of it. When using it to their benefit, they are improving their relationship and building trust with you. This helps the kids to feel more confident in the fact that you trust and can rely on them. They will show more confidence and be more open to come to you when things are not going well, just based off of this foundation that you created with them.

Trust your instincts, Mommy!

You know what’s best for your child and everyone’s timing for letting go is different. Just make sure when you do allow them to experience a little freedom, you are doing it with someone you trust. Doing it this way will help to calm your nerves and encourage your child as well.

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